Monthly Archives: May 2014

Don’t “Should” Yourself ;)

To Do List

“Anything worth doing is worth doing frantically.” ~ New proverb

“I don’t give myself credit for what I do get done, because I have so many projects hanging in the fire that I haven’t done.” ~ Chris

“Shoulda, woulda, coulda, I like to say to myself when I start to worry that I didn’t get enough done in one day.  There are only so many hours in the day to get things done.  We all are so overwhelmed with so many items on our “To Do” list.

We listen to seminars, take classes or read an article and it says, “Do (insert here) every day for at least 10 minutes a day and VOILA!”  ‘Ten minutes a day’, we say to ourselves, ‘I should be able to do that.’  Then when it doesn’t get done, we think we failed.

The truth of the matter is, we all have so many things on our to do lists that we could never do it all in one day.  With all the 10 minutes spent on what we “should” be able to do in just 10 minutes each day, we would need a day twice as long!  Here’s my “TO DO” List for example:

10 minutes – record dreams in the morning

10-20 minutes – Tarot reading

10-30 minutes – meditation and/or gratitude thoughts

10-20 – minutes feed and pet the animals

60 – minutes exercise

20 – minutes stretch

30-60 – minutes walk dog

30 – minutes reading a day

30 – minutes studying a day

30 – minutes practicing healing work and shamanic journeys

30 – minutes grocery shopping

30 – minutes cooking

This is over 5 hours by now!  Impossible!  Then you are supposed to work, spend time with your spouse, take care of your kids, spend time with them, check in with your parents, your siblings, your friends.  Check in with yourself.  What?!  Yes.  Check in with yourself.

But, I need to do all this stuff!  Check in with yourself.  How are you feeling right now?  Can you give some of that love and attention to you?  You could use it.

I take my to do list and I rotate it.  I start at the top and each day, do what I didn’t get to the day before.  I don’t have to do all those things every day.  If I get through a third or a quarter of the list each day, the items will come through every 3-4 days.  Whew!  Much more doable.  Some of these things are daily, (like feeding the animals!) but all of them do not have to be daily.

Let’s give ourselves a break and stop sprinting to the finish line every day.   I am not a runner.  It doesn’t feel good.

If I spend the day thinking of what I shoulda done, or coulda  done, I am not in the present moment.  What is happening in this moment right now?  Shouldn’t I be present for what is happening now?  It is much more joyful to live in the NOW and be PRESENT.

So… stop “shoulding” on yourself!  😉

“Love the moment, and the energy of that moment will spread beyond all boundaries.”

~ Corita Kent

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