“Judgement means that you view the world as you are, rather than as it is.” ~ Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
Judgement. We do it every day. We do it several times a day. We decide about something when we don’t have all the facts. We judge people for how they dress, how they wear their hair, what their job is and how they show up in this world even though we do not stand in their shoes.
We don’t think about someone that dresses too young for their age might be having a hard time aging! We don’t know why someone is being rude; either in person or driving. While it is not okay to be rude, what is behind that? We don’t know if someone in their life has just died or is dying. We don’t know if they are experiencing so much pain, they can barely get home. We don’t know if they are deciding if they should get divorced or keep trying. We don’t know what motivates another person.
I think what we can do to be our best selves is to be compassionate and not take it personally. Maybe we can offer a kind word or a smile. Maybe we can say a mental prayer for them. Maybe we just have to let it go, walk around them, give them space. We don’t have to engage internally or externally.
Once I started taking myself out of the equation and realized everyone reacts from their own perspective and the values that they were brought up with, my life got so much easier. Who knows how someone else received parenting? Who knows what shadows they wrestle with each day?
The last several years I have been working hard on the many layers of me. What’s inside of me? What makes me tick? What stops my process? I am growing and healing the inner me and the outer me gets more radiant each day as I stand up for my authentic self. I feel if I focus on being the best ME (the microcosm) I really can effect the macrocosm. (the world!)
If I practice gratitude, nonjudment and unconditional love, if I find my joy, I can only help to spread joy. If we focus on what work needs to be done on ourselves and celebrate loving ourselves and accepting ourselves, I really think we can make a difference in the world. We won’t be contributing by putting negativity out into the world and we will be projecting love and joy because we get it. WE get it. We understand that everyone wants to be loved and accepted and we can help.
Be our best selves, that’s how we can help.
“We can only learn to love by loving.” ~ Doris Murdock